The Method of Spouse Keeping & Prosperity in Islam
                                                                                                                                           Compiled by: Engineer Afsaneh Cooper

​The Right of a Spouse

1. The behaviour of Princess Soraya [Muslim] who does not believe in Polygamy in Islam 

2. Why Marriage Does not work?

3. Based on the traditions of Shi'a Islam in this page, do 60% of Australians after seeing this page, still discriminate mixed marriages with Muslims?

4. Queen of Australia married to an Officer at young age, while she was royal, and her marriage has lasted 70 years! The royal couple have always believed in God and Jesus.

5. PM of Australia and his wife married not to do fornication sin 37 years ago

​6. Malcolm Turnball Prime Minister of Australia, treated his wife with feminism and equality and after they married in 1980, they are still in love.

​7. This is the key to a strong and happy relationship
8. The most popular members of the British Royal Family are Princess Diana who converted to Islam before her death and her son Prince Harry. Diana was Primary School Teacher, while Prince Harry's wife was an International Relation Expert. Photographer with 30 years Experience consider this new couple have the best relationship ever Royal Family have had! Prince Andrew is divorced, Prince Harry's Step mother was not allowed to marry Prince Charles as in Christianity a man cannot practice Polygamy and must divorce his wife. Divorce is not allowed for the married step mother who loved another man. So Christianity is not for 21's Century lovers, is it? Christians to Switch to Islam!
9. Sheikh Al-Maktoum king of Dubei [UAE] needs to convert to Shi'a Islam, so his wife Haya returns to him. This queen fled Dubei and became asylum seeker to Germany. The king does not understand why both his daughter and his wife fled their country? They do so because the kings is brought up without lost and deleted traditions of Islam, which are mainly about "justice and fairness" and historical Islamic rulers removed these traditions from Sunni traditions books. This is a sample of relationship tradition which Sunnis miss it in their traditions, but exists in Shi'a Islam. Best wishes for the Ruler of UAE in regards to converting to the right path. Also pray for Queen Haya who did not put up with unjust Sunnism!


Imam Sajjad (a.s):

And it is the right of your spouse that you should know that God has made him or her for a tranquility and comfort in worry and a friend and shield against sins. And likewise it is incumbent upon both of you to thank God for one’s spouse and to know that one is a grace of God upon the other. And it is obligatory to have good fellow ship with this grace of God, and to respect him or her and be kind although the husband’s rights upon his wife are greater and her obedience is the final word in all the likes and dislikes of a husband so long as it is not a sin. So a wife has the right of love and fellowship; and place of repose so that natural desires may be fulfilled and this in itself is a great duty. And there is no strength but by God.

Responsibilities of Husband towards His Wife  

1) To be kind to her and treat her well. (Q; 4:19)

2) He should not be ill-tempered towards his wife.

3) To forgive her if she does something wrong.

4) To supply her the food-stuff used by the people. To supply her more food-stuff

on `id days (festivals).

5) To prohibit her from doing something which may possibly entail evil.

6) Not to entrust the management of his affairs to her

7) To feed and dress his wife.

Family Love and relationship  

1) A man’s words to his wife: “I love you” would never go out of her heart.

2) When one of you wants to marry a woman, let him say to her: “I accept the covenant taken by Allah”:...And

    then (a woman) must be retained in honor or released in kindness. (Q; 2:229)

3) Verily the best of you is the best to his women; and I am the best of you to my

    women.

4) Marriage is a relationship of “rest”, “love” and “mercy”: “And of His signs is that:

     He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them, and He

    ordained between you love and mercy. Most surely there are signs for a people who

    reflect.” (Q; 30:21)

5) “He it is Who did create you from a single being, and of the same (kind) did He

     make his mate that he might incline to her...” (Q; 7:189)

6) May Allah bless the man who does good between himself and his wife; as Allah the

     Exalted has given him authority over her and made him her guardian.

7) Imam Sajjad (a.s.): If you like a person, make your friendship known to him,

      because doing so guarantees friendship all the more and becomes the means of the

      firmness of love between the two parties.

8) “...Marry such women as seem good to you.” (Q; 4:3)

  The Rights of Women  

1) The Right to study: Seeking knowledge is a duty imposed on all Muslim males

      And females.

2) The Right to work: Both man and women are given the right to work.

    Matrimonial rights and family system come first in Islam. It is obligatory for the

    wife to protect family life and take care of household duties.

3) The Civil Rights: Woman, like man enjoys full legal rights. She may inherit, buy,

    sell, give, take, conclude contracts, etc. In Islam, the woman has an independent

    personality, and her obligations are independent from those of her father, husband

    or brothers. Thus, the woman in Islam enjoys all rights and is treated equally to

    man in this respect.

4) The Political Rights: “O Prophet! If believing women come to you, taking oath of

     allegiance to you that they will ascribe nothing as partner to Allah, and will neither

     steal nor commit adultery nor kill their children, nor produce any lie that they have

     devised between their hands and feet (forged) nor disobey you in what is right,

     then accept their allegiance and ask Allah to forgive them. Surely Allah is

     Forgiving, Merciful”.(Q; 60:12).

     This Oath of allegiance is obligatory on women and men and it is the acceptance of

      the Imam (Head) of the Islamic nation.

5) Look for goodness in the beautiful faces, as their deeds are apt to be good.

6) Do not marry to ill-tempered or drunkard man.

7) Wed not idolatresses until they believe; and certainly a believing bondwoman is

     better than an idolatress even though she should please you; and give not

     (believing women) in marriage to idolaters until they believe, and certainly a

     believing slave is better than an idolater even though he should please you. These invite to the            Fire, and Allah invites to the Garden, and to forgiveness by His grace, and expounds thus His revelations to mankind that they may be mindful.” (Q; 2:221)

Social Etiquettes in marriage relationships

1. The right of a companion
   
   

Imam Sajjad (a.s.): It is the right of your companion to be gentle and agreeable to him or her and to do him or her justice in conversation and while looking at him or her, do not take away your eyes from him or her at once. While talking, your aim should be to make him or her understand. And if you have gone to sit with him or her, you are at liberty to take your leave. But if he or she has come to sit with you, he or she has the option and in this case you should not leave that meeting without his or her permission. And there is no power but with God.

1. The right of a partner
   
   

Imam Sajjad (a.s.): It is the right of a partner that you should take his or her burden upon yourself if he or she is absent and to work equally when he or she is present. Do not decide anything without his or her consent and do not enforce your view without consulting his or hers. Save his or her wealth for him or her and protect his or her account against embezzlement. It does not matter whether that malpractice is great or small because this sermon of the Holy Prophet reached us,”Surely the Hand (bliss) of God is upon partners so long as they do no swindle each other.” And there is no power but with God.

3)    Peace:         Be patient and tolerant with him who has behaved rudely with you.  

4)    No abuse Do not quarrel with the people, because doing so destroys one’s magnanimity and personality and eliminates compassion.

5)    Respect  Do not get angry but control your anger because controlling one’s anger is the means of respect in this world as well as in the Hereafter. A person who will control his anger in spite of being in an authoritative position will be filled with faith and will be saved from the anxiety and depression on the Day of Judgment.

​Polygyny

1. “...and if you fear that you cannot do justice (between your wives) then (marry) only one...”
   
   

       (Q; 4:3)

1. Anyone who has two wives and does not behave with them with justice and shows more
   
   

 inclination to one than the other, he will be resurrected on the Day of Judgment, and one side

 of his body will be dragged along the ground till at last he shall enter the Fire.

1. If any man gathers a number of women around him and is incapable of giving them full sexual satisfaction, and, as a result of this, these women are led to adultery and promiscuity, that person is answerable for the sin of these illegal acts.